3 Simple Ways to Take Control of Your Emotions
Whenever there is a life-changing event occurring in your life, one of the things that get affected is your emotions. This is especially true after a divorce where your emotions are all over the place. This was me even before my divorce but I learned how to take control of my emotions. I will share with you 3 simple ways to take control of your emotions. Once followed, they will help you control your emotions.
Take control of your emotions
Let’s face it, no matter what the circumstances were leading up to divorce when it is final you are left with crushing feelings. In fact, you may have been on an emotional roller coaster beginning from the day of separation as was the case for me. When my neighbour told me he was moving out, I hustled home to find out that he had already moved the majority of his stuff. That’s when reality hit me, this is it. I cried and cried for about 20 minutes, then picked myself up and regained a frame of mind where I was able to go out and buy doors locks to change on all the doors.
I felt like I was on an emotional roller coaster
Different types of emotions that you may have
The days and months that followed revealed many emotions that were inside of me. I was mad at him for what he did to me. I was annoyed at myself that I allowed him to do the things he did to me. I was upset that it was coming to an end. I was full of despair because I didn’t know what would happen next. I was joyful that it was all over. I cried and I laughed. One thing I found out is that there was no amount of preparation could have helped me to prepare for the emotional havoc that going through a divorce would wreak on my life.
3 Simple Way to Take Control of your Emotions
Being emotional cannot be avoided, in fact, I would worry if you did not have any emotions as going through a divorce is a serious life-changing event. However, you do not have to wallow in those emotions forever or even by yourself. While it can take some time, you can get off the emotional roller coaster with the help of these 3 F’s
My Christian faith allowed me to have someone to talk to, someone who I could bare all my soul and sometimes even without the use of words. Talking to God on a daily basis helped me to get rid of some of the angry feelings I had. I could release the deep feelings and thoughts I had that I could not utter to anyone else. I used prayer often and read scriptures to speak life to my situation. My favourite was Psalm 46:10 which says “Be still and know that I am God”. It really comforted me because I know God was telling me that everything would be ok with me and for me. If you have faith, be sure to lean on it to help with your emotions.
Having supportive family members will definitely make a difference in how you are feeling emotionally especially when they are not judgmental and quick to point fingers at you. My family was my biggest supporters. They offered encouraging words and included me in activities that would help to take my mind off of the situation. They also provided financially to pick up the slack when I could not afford it. Now is a good time for you to form a close bond with family members you may not have been close to.
Even though you have your faith and family, you will still need friends that you can depend on emotionally, to understand what you are going through. No, you don’t have to have 5, 10 or even 20 friends. All you need is 2 good friends who will be a positive influence in your life while you are making adjustments to your new life. One of my good friends was like a second mom to me, she was the principal of the school where I worked. She took me under her wing and made it a habit to encourage me on a daily basis and gave me positive advice when necessary. Choose friends that you can trust and who you know would not be spreading your business all over the place.
Now you can take control of your Emotions
My faith, family, and friends really helped me to get off the emotional roller coaster to the point where I could keep my emotions in check. I believe if you follow the tips listed that you too can get off that roller coaster. Just remember that it’s a process and will not happen overnight.
Are you on an emotional roller coaster? What have you been doing to get back on track?
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